Sexual confidence is not about being "good" in bed. It's not about having ripped abs or big boobs. And it doesn't come from having a lot of sex. While it can mean different things to different people, at its core sexual confidence is feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy — as well as listening to the needs of your sexual partner. Melbourne sexologist Kassandra Mourikis says people often think of it as a performance — in and outside the bedroom.
You see them laughing, enjoying themselves, running around and talking to different people. Everyone wants to know them and they just seem to attract people right to themselves. They love themselves. The quality or state of being certain. In other words, you believe you are good and can do good. You are sure of yourself and you know that whatever happens, you will be okay. To put it even more simply: Not being confident in yourself sucks.